Once we grow up and take on our adult responsibilities, it becomes all too easy to leave our playful, carefree attitudes at the door- especially the bedroom door. Monotony, no more! It is time get the spark and spunk back into your relationship with the help of Dr. Ava Cadell, author of The Sexy Little Book of Sex Games. Call on your inner mischievousness, let go of inhibitions and get ready to have some overdue fun by surprising your partner with some naughty playtime!
Foreplay is the essential time to get warmed up and create the mood for a night of fun. First, play Sensational Sense to create an atmosphere that is sure to stimulate both you and your partner in everyway possible. Find 5 items that enhance and heighten each one of your senses, so 10 items total. For the sense of sight, you can get fresh cut flowers or lingerie. For the sense of smell, try scented candles or incense. For sound, play romantic music or get some wind chimes. The sense of taste can be enhanced with chocolates or fresh fruit. And the sense of touch can be heightened by the use of feathers or massage oil. If you both choose the same thing for one of the senses, the first one to exchange it with something else gets to have a sensual massage first.
When it comes to playing games with your lover, there is no such thing as a winner or loser, everyone benefits from these games. So keep your competitive juices flowing and play Lending a Hand. Take turns massaging yourself in front of your partner with an added twist; place your hand on your partner’s hand as they touch themselves. You’ll get to feel their motions and learn their touch style, which can translate into giving even better, spot-on massages.
Now that you are warmed up from head to toe, it is time to play A Little Head or Tail. All you need to play this game is a coin and a naughty list to have fun all night long. Make a naughty list of sexy actions like erotic talk, sexy positions and role-playing for the winner to choose from. Just keep flipping the coin and keep choosing from the list.
Finally, make the most of the main event by exploring your personal playground, your entire home. Keep sex out of the bedroom for undiscovered fun and wild variety. Get kinky in the kitchen with Spatula Spanking or Body Basting. Move to the laundry room to play Giant Vibrations by sitting on top of your tumble dryer while it’s drying your clothes and let yourself feel the vibrations ripple through your loins. Better still; tell your lover that you want to be rewarded for your hard work by making love on top of the tumble dryer for a unique sensation you’ll talk about for months to come. Then, bring the life back into your living room with a game of The Ritual. Start by christening all the furniture in your living room by having sex in different positions on every chair, on the couch, on the floor, the piano, against the bookcase, in front of the TV, and on or below the coffee table (as long as it’s safe). You’ll have so much fun seeing family and friends sitting or eating at places where you’ve had sex. Lastly, get things extra steamy in your personal pleasure palace, the bathroom. To play Sponge Babe, surprise your lover with a sensual sponge bath and explore his or her erogenous zones. Be creative with scented soaps, such as lavender, almond, or sandalwood. Use perfumed oils to increase your lover’s olfactory pleasure. In this game, the receiver must be the giver of a sponge bath after making love.
An open mind and playful attitude are the sexiest qualities you can bring to the table. Don’t let your relationship go stale; instead keep it lively and fresh. After all, the couple that plays together stays together!
